The Invisible Magic of Mums at Christmas

Now we’ve reached December, there’s a familiar buzz in the air. For many mums, it’s the start of the season where we somehow transform into miracle workers - coordinating events, decorating our home, finding the perfect gifts, and making Christmas feel magical for everyone around us.

But let’s be honest. Behind the twinkling lights and festive cheer lies an undeniable truth: it’s a bloody lot!

For some, the lead-up to Christmas is filled with joy - excited children, cozy traditions, and precious moments spent with family. But for others, it’s a more complicated time. Grief may cast a shadow over the celebrations, or strained family relationships can make the season feel heavy. The noise and pressure of the holidays can feel overwhelming, and even for those who love Christmas, the sheer amount of mental and emotional energy it requires can take its toll.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone.

Many of us feel the invisible weight of making Christmas happen. It’s the lists, the planning, the late nights wrapping presents, and the constant mental checklist that doesn’t seem to end. It’s remembering to buy the gift for the teacher, organising the work Secret Santa, and making sure there’s enough tape for the wrapping paper! It’s no wonder so many mums reach Christmas Day feeling utterly spent.

But here’s the thing: perfection isn’t the goal.

This year, I want to remind you to pause and reflect on what really matters to you and your family. Maybe it’s the traditions that bring comfort, like baking Christmas cake together or watching a favourite Christmas movie in your coordinated Christmas jammies. Maybe it’s simply making it through December without feeling completely drained. Both are equally valid.

And if Christmas isn’t a time you particularly enjoy, know that you’re not alone in that either. For many, this season can stir up difficult emotions - whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the stress of family dynamics, or even financial strain. It’s okay to acknowledge those feelings and give yourself permission to set boundaries or skip the parts of the season that don’t serve you. It’s ok to say no to every invite to a night out or get together.

Celebrate the small wins.

Maybe it’s showing up for your child’s school concert, even if you feel like you’re barely holding it together. Maybe it’s putting up one string of lights because that’s all you had the energy for. Or maybe it’s finding five quiet minutes to savor a cup of tea in the middle of the chaos.

Those moments are enough. You are enough.

Take a moment to think about the things your children will remember. Chances are, it won’t be the perfectly set table or the mountain of gifts. It’ll be the warmth and love you bring to the season in your own unique way. It might be the laughter of playing board games, the smell of Christmas dinner coming from the kitchen as they play with their toys in the other room, or the feeling of being hugged tightly after opening a gift.

To every mum out there: whether you love Christmas or find it difficult, you’re doing your best - and that’s more than enough.

You’re the magic of this season in so many ways, and the love and effort you pour into your family, big or small, doesn’t go unnoticed.

So, this December, I hope you’ll find a moment to step back, breathe, and know that however you’re feeling about Christmas, it’s valid. You’re not alone, and you’re doing an amazing job.

You’re an amazing Mum!

Sending you love (and lots and lots of energy) for the weeks ahead.

Chat soon,

Debbie x

PS: I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Does this resonate with you? Or drop me an email or DM if you’d rather a private chat.